Custom Blanket: Joann Grace Designs
It feels like forever since my last blog post! I decided towards the end of my pregnancy that I wasn't going to stress over blogging and preparing posts ahead of time for when baby arrived. Instead just took the time to enjoy the last couple of months of being a family of 3 and preparing for the new arrival.
We are a month into life with a toddler and a new baby and... Oh. My.Goodness. We all love this little guy more than words can do justice. It has been amazing and exciting and so full of love. It has also been harder than I ever imagined. I just had this idea that it would be easy, I've done this before, how hard could it be? However, I underestimated how different it would be. What I didn't expect was the anxiety, over everything- Is the baby eating enough, is his poop normal, is he breathing, is Lilly eating enough, wondering when I would sleep... That brings me to the sleep deprivation- Lilly has had some sleep regression issues with the new baby arriving, so we would get one to sleep and the other would wake up shortly after. It was like they were playing a cruel joke on my husband and I. I know this is to be expected, and most parents experience this but I was so unprepared for how exhausted I would be, both physically and emotionally that it totally threw me. And last but not least- the MAJOR mom guilt. I felt so guilty about nearly everything that it consumed me the first few weeks and I am still struggling with it, though not as bad. Trying to make time for Lilly, or my husband, or keeping up with our home and meals etc. Finally, both my husband and my mom both urged me to just let it all go. Let the house get messy, let the dishes and laundry pile up, if you need to order takeout more often, then so be it. This was hard for me, but slowly I did just let it go and I am so much happier and more relaxed! I still have to take care of the mess and the meals but I do it when I can and the added pressure isn't there making me crazy. I also broke down and hired cleaning people every other week. I know it sounds ridiculous but I refused using a cleaning service for a long time because I didn't like the thought of other people cleaning my home. I got over feeling that way pretty fast! After the first cleaning I was like why didn't I do this sooner!? Sometimes as a mom, we need to cut ourselves some slack and accept help. I highly recommend it iff it is an option!
Our first month also came with a scare- Cole was hospitalized the day after his 1 month mark. Lilly had a little cold, and even though I tried keeping them apart, washing my hands constantly and disinfecting everything, Cole still got it. He had a fever of 99 so I took him to the pediatrician on the 15th. She advised me he looked ok but if he reached 100.4 or higher he must go straight to the ER. (prior to this, I wasn't aware a fever for an infant was 99- 100.00 and anything 100.4 or higher required a trip to the ER.) She stressed how dangerous fevers and infections were in newborns so they monitor them very closely and take it very seriously. He seemed to be doing fine the rest of the day but at 1 am on the 16th I took his temp and it was 101. We were taking him to the hospital.
Cole was taken in immediately and had to have blood and urine drawn as well as a spinal tap. That was the worst. I couldn't imagine him having to endure something like that and I felt so helpless. My husband stayed in the room for the spinal tap, which was surprisingly fast, while I stood in the hallway and cried. I was able to hold it together until then but as soon as they shut the door I lost it. A really nice nurse came over with a box of tissues and reassured me it would be ok. Then I pulled it together and went back in where they put in his IV port and admitted him. Over the following 2 days he received antibiotics via the IV as well as shots and they monitored his vitals until his test results and cultures came back negative. It was a long 2 nights but we were able to go home Monday afternoon once they confirmed it was just the common cold and not something more serious. It was one of the hardest, scariest things I have been thorough but it really put things into perspective and showed me just how strong being a parent makes you.
This week things have returned to normal. Everyone is recovering from their colds and I am one happy Mama. I am celebrating by giving away 2 sets of Milestone Baby Cards. You may have seen me using them in my photos the past few weeks. They are an adorable and fun way to document your baby's milestones. You can write the date on them and save them as keepsakes after you take your photos. We are really enjoying them!
Head over to my Instagram page @mommylifestyled for instructions on how to enter (if you do not use instagram, just shoot me a message in the comments below!). Two winners will be chosen at random on Monday 10/24 and be notified by 10/25 (EST) .
Thanks for reading our story and good luck!
Outfit: Old Navy / Deluxe Baby Dock by DockATot
Custom Blanket: Joann Grace Designs / Outfit and Shoes: Old Navy
Hi! I'm Lisa, a wife and mommy who loves sourcing attainable fashion and making things pretty. Thanks for following along on my journey through Mommy Life. Styled.